Healing…my way

Healing has become a popular term these days. You hear quotes like, “heal so when someone tells you they love you, you’ll believe them” or “heal so you don’t bleed on people who haven’t hurt you.” I’m sure there are plenty more but those are the ones I see most. So we’re pushing this narrative and encouraging people to heal (and I’m here for it 👏🏾) but I think some of us have the wrong idea of what healing really is and what it looks like. Webster dictionary defines heal as, to cause to become sound or healthy again. First things first, it says “to cause” which is an action. There’s this thing we do in church when something is wrong or someone has an issue, we tell them ‘just pray about it.’ And while I believe in the power of prayer, (it works! Ask me how I know!) I also know that faith without WORKS is dead. Prayer can’t be the only thing you’re doing! We have a habit of over spiritualizing things to avoid actually doing something! Some of the things we need to heal from requires practical application; Acknowledging that we actually need to heal (cuz some folks are walking around unhealed for real but healed in their mind), talking to someone (please go to therapy, please it’ll bless you), developing coping skills, apologizing, making amends etc. You can’t heal from anything you’re not addressing...PERIODT! Now that we got that out the way, let’s go a little deeper. Another reason some of us can’t “heal” is because we have misconceptions of what it means to be sound and healthy. For too long, we’ve let everyone but US determine what sound and healthy means! A lot of times peoples perception of you being “sound and healthy” is tied up in what you’re DOING and not who you are. Being active in ministry, having a good job, being wealthy, having a large social media following, being booked and busy, etc don’t mean sound and healthy! Being sound and healthy is about YOU, the you outside of all those things! You’ll know you’re really healed when your healing isn’t measured by what you’re doing or not doing.! We have to stop measuring our healing based on our titles, our roles, the work we do, and even our influence.! Because when the dust settles and you’re not doing any of those things, YOU are still there. So I encourage you to really heal, like I mean REALLY heal, not for your purpose, not for your calling, not for a man, not for your family, not for your friends, not for your job, not for your business etc, but for YOU! Find out what sound and healthy means FOR YOU! Not what it is was for someone who may have a similar testimony, not what these folks try to tell you it is but what it is for YOU! And a little bit of encouragement for those of you who may have struggled like I have with healing in the past. The definition also says AGAIN, meaning there’s already a blueprint of a healed YOU to return too.! Be encouraged in that! The blueprint is already in you.! The HEALED you is already inside of you, you just have to return to it AGAIN.!